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WANT MORE FRIENDS? “PEBBLE” THEM!
In the 1960’s, friends got stoned together. Now, they “pebble” each other!
It seems that, today, humans are taking their relationship lessons from penguins.
A social media trend called "pebbling" involves sending videos and links to friends to show that you are thinking about them, according to experts.
The name was inspired by Gentoo penguins which are known for leaving pebbles in the nests of other penguins, as a sign of affection.
"Sending
links and videos to others is not trivial
— it signals that you are thinking of them and want them to share
your joy," says Dr. Adam Grant, a psychologist at the University
of Pennsylvania’s
Wharton School.
"It is known as ‘pebbling,’ based on penguins’ giving pebbles to potential partners," he went on. "’Pebbling’ is an act of care. Every ‘pebble’ is an offer for connection."
Young human couples say that “pebbling” leads to further connection and is a unique way to let their significant others know that they are thinking of them.
Abby and Cooper, a young couple in their 20s, say that “pebbling” is a pleasant, easy way to express caring.
"I
send Instagram
‘Reels’ to Abby when they relate to something that she has done
in the past. I also send ones about murder mystery shows and cute
animals to spark her interest," Cooper says.
The young couple agree that “pebbling” helps them stay connected when they are apart.
"I always send Coop links to new restaurants that I see or foods and recipes that I want to try," Abby adds. "It is a way of saying, ‘Hey, let’s try this,’ but it also brings us closer because it means that we can go and do it together. We both love food, so you can never go wrong with a food link."
In addition to serving as a love language between couples, “pebbling” can also create connections between adults and their children.
"Sharing memes and online reels in a family group chat is a wonderful way to foster connection with teens during times when face-to-face communication between parents and children wanes and becomes more tricky," Christine MacInnis, a licensed family therapist in California, said. "It is less intense and feels safer to kids who grew up in the digital age," she added.
MacInnis’ 17-year-old daughter said that she enjoys this form of connection with her family. "I enjoy sharing links back and forth because it is a funnier, more advanced way of communicating," the teen said.
“Pebbling” does have the potential to enhance communication among parents and their teens," says Dr. Elissa Giffords, a licensed clinical social worker at Long Island University.
Sharing
memes, links, GIFs, or videos gives parents the opportunity to show
their children that they are thinking of them.
"Even if their children roll their eyes or consider what is received as goofy, the basic ‘I am thinking about you’ message is received," Dr. Giffords said.
While “pebbling” can help parents demonstrate affection, empathy, and concern in moderation, the timing and quantity of the messages are important, she cautioned.
“Parents should be mindful of not overdoing it when offering their ‘pebbles,’" the doctor warns.
Used intelligently, “pebbling” can become an activity that both parties enjoy and can provide an opportunity for a later discussion, Dr. Giffords believes.
"It
might be hard for some people, though, because there is actually less
real communication, if you are always sending ‘pebbles’ instead
of talking in person," she noted.
So, while “pebbling” can help build a stronger connection in a relationship, it should not be the only form of communication between the two people. There is the risk that your “pebbles” might become spam, and no one loves spammers.
SOURCE: foxnews.com
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